Book Discussion #3
Book Discussion - Leah on the Offbeat #3
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5. What are your thoughts on sexuality labels? Can someone be low-key bi?
6. What did you think of Leah's reaction to Abby's coming out?
5. What are your thoughts on sexuality labels? Can someone be low-key bi?
6. What did you think of Leah's reaction to Abby's coming out?
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5) Well, since I'm cis and straight, I don't have a lot of weight in this matter, nor should I. But I think the book focus a lot on how sexuality is fluid, and I believe it is entirely possible for someone to be low-key bi when they're trying to figure out who they really are. I also think that these labels shouldn't be a fixed thing, because, as I've said, sexuality is fluid, you can be more than one thing, one label.
ReplyDelete6) With that said, I think Leah reacted very poorly with Abby coming out. I get that it was a sensitive matter to her, but each person has their own process and it should be respected, specially by her since she went through the same thing. I also was very disappointed at her aggressiveness with Abby on this point, since Leah had no idea Abby was bi (low-key or not) when she fell for her, so it is not Abby's fault that they weren't on the same wave-length at the time.
"5. What are your thoughts on sexuality labels? Can someone be low-key bi?"
ReplyDeleteI'd prefer there being no labels, so people could love whoever they love without worrying about "what" they are. And just accept all love.
But that is unrealistic at this point in time, and so labels work to help individuals find themselves and, most importantly, accept themselves.
Is there such a thing as "low-key bi"? Honestly, I don't think so. You either like both genders or you don't. You may have a strong preference for one, but bi is bi. However!
"Low-key bi" was Abby's way of getting herself comfortable with the label. And there is nothing wrong with that. Some people need more time than others to adjust and to accept themselves. If that's the label they are comfortable with to explore their sexuality, then so be it.
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"6. What did you think of Leah's reaction to Abby's coming out?"
Understandable and yet super rude.
I understand Leah was annoyed by the fact that Abby didn't accept herself right away, and that she feared Abby was testing the waters and could be hurting Leah in the process with a "oh, turns out I was straight all along!"
However, coming out is hard and people need to be supportive. Leah didn't give Abby support or allowed Abby time to accept herself. Abby was taking baby steps, but Leah demanded her to take a full leap.
---Vanda
3) I think maybe she meant low-key bi as in she only ever crushed on a girl, that girl being Leah, so she thought Leah was an exception, hence low-key,
Delete4)That is very true, Leah showed no patience or understanding at all.
3) (also answering Priscila) I actually thought she said “low-key bi” because she liked boys the best but that makes sense!
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ReplyDelete5. What are your thoughts on sexuality labels? Can someone be low-key bi?
In my opinion everyone should be able to choose whatever label they feel the most confortable with. I identify as bisexual but I do believe sexuality is fluid. Label or no label, anyone should feel free to identify as they wish.
6. What did you think of Leah's reaction to Abby's coming out?
I can relate to Leah's reaction to Abby's coming out, when you have feelings for someone and that person isn't quite sure of who they are or what they want it can be truly terrifying. However I do admire Abby's courage and everyone should take their time figuring themselves out, as long as they don't hurt anyone along the way.
---Daniela
It is true, I didn't think much on this, but Abby was very brave, even more so when she was honest with Leah and her feelings and current confusion over them.
Delete5) Like mentioned before, I do believe there shouldn’t be labels and people should just like who they want without worrying about that (like Vanda also said).
ReplyDeleteEveryone who has gone through teenage knows how it feels to struggle to label yourself and find yourself. I think Abby shouldn’t feel the pressure of admitting she was bi because of Leah. I think she shouldn’t feel the pressure to say she’s straight either. She should just be able to love who she is and who she wants. Labels are for other people, not for ourselves. And sometimes we should put our happiness above others.
So, for me, there is something as “low-key” bi if Abby wants it.
6) I think as someone who is bi and never came out to anyone, Leah should be the first one to support Abby and don’t put pressure on her to come out.
I mean, her long-time crush was single and liked her back! Time to be happy, not overdramatic.
Yeah I agree on the labels thing, they are for others, not ourselves.
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